• Freia M. Titland

Sacred Death

Sounds scary, right? Don't worry. We're not talking about literal death here. We're talking about the idea and practice of letting things go that no longer serve us. For me, that was alcohol (and gluten, apparently).

The Tarot Card, The Blasted Oak, is a card that represents a sacred death. It looks frightening and violent and sometimes letting go of something can be both. Sometimes we hold on to people, old patterns, jobs, thoughts and emotions just because they feel familiar to us. Just because something or someone has always been there, doesn't mean they should be. It's hard to let go, but it's absolutely necessary.

Do you remember your first break up? I'm not talking about on the schoolyard when we jumped from crush to crush. I'm talking about that first "serious" relationship that felt all-consuming. Yeah, that one. That hurt, didn't it? You felt like they were your everything; your world. But, guess what? You're not with them anymore and life went on. For the first few days, weeks maybe, it felt like you were dying. Your whole world was crashing down around you. You didn't know how you were going to ever move on. Oh, wait. Just me? Well... I'll speak from personal experience then.

It hurt so bad. I thought I was never going to fall in love again. I thought if I couldn't be with that person then I won't be with anyone at all. I was 19. Then the days went by and life went on. I looked back thinking about how stupid I was to feel that way and how different my life would have been had I not experienced heart break and loss. I learned so much and I grew into an incredible human being. And, I dated, broke up, dated, broke up some more. That's life. We have to learn to let people and feelings go in order to make room for new ones. If we can do it with relationships, we can do it with ourselves too.

What are you holding on to that no longer serves you? What do you keep doing over and over again that isn't working anymore? Have you been ignoring signs or that little voice inside your head? I did. I ignored the little voice inside my head for almost 3 years. "You need to stop drinking. You are killing yourself." Then I got into an argument with a friend while drunk and that was that. I was no longer in control of my emotions and that was as good enough reason for me to stop completely. And guess what? I feel so aligned. I feel so in tune with my body, my mind, and my emotions. I feel so much closer to my higher purpose and so much art and inspiration has come from it. Will I ever drink again? Probably. But on my own terms when the time is right.

What do you need to let go of? What is blocking your progression? Your life's purpose?

I cover this more deeply on my last two episodes of the podcast, 12. "Success" and 13. "Weight Loss, Exercise, Eating Healthy. It's all the same, right? Wrong."

We need to realize that there's something sacred and special about letting go of things that no longer serve us. It's okay to be afraid and to even mourn the death of that relationship, emotion, or even that side of ourselves. But letting certain things die and fall away will leave room for new things to come in and take root. You can do it!


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